Shortly after I kept the kids over night, I heard from my lawyer. Trudy’s lawyer had been in touch, and they weren’t happy. They kept throwing around some “unilateral” term. What did that even mean? I quickly found out that if I just make a decision without going through the proper steps, its a “unilateral” decision. They loved throwing that term around. In fact, if you tell someone enough times that they unilaterally did something, it starts to take a toll on them. I kept thinking to my self once again that i’m a horrible person and started wondering if maybe I WAS in the wrong.
Trudy’s lawyer was not playing around. They kept demanding financial information, section 7 something er other, and a bunch of legal terms I had never heard of. I got my taxes together and sent them.
Normally my lawyer is supposed to look everything over before sending to Trudy’s council, will tell me if I’m missing anything.
I get a letter from my lawyer a few days later stating that my Trudy’s lawyer is accusing me of sending incomplete tax forms, and that I am withholding tax information. She threatens me with filing a non-contested motion which is basically saying that I’m not cooperating with them, that i’m not fighting what Trudy is asking for and that the case should be dismissed.
I quickly reply to my lawyer and asked her why she hadn’t made sure that I had sent everything they were asking for. She told me that she isn’t here to babysit, and would expect that I would forward a fully complete tax return. I had enough of emailing, so I called her. I told her that I gave her everything that the tax company had given me, and that she needs to look at it, and tell me what is missing because I have no idea.
She told me she would review it and get back to me.
She calls me back an hour later, and cant seem to see what is missing from my tax return. She called Trudy’s lawyer and asked what they were looking for. Trudy’s lawyer said she had made a mistake, and that all forms were there.
ARE YOU KIDDING ME.
So here I am getting billed for all of this communication, dealing with an insane amount of stress… for no reason.
I was upset with my lawyer, and even more upset with her lawyer. I was quickly learning that my lawyer was not looking out for me, and causing more problems than not. It was time to find a new lawyer. I filed the papers for “an intent to act in person”
She didn’t care.
She claimed that there had been a break down of solicitor-client communication..
Well ya… you screwed me, and you dont care about my issue.
ADVICE BLURB: IF AT ANYTIME YOU DONT FEEL THAT YOUR LAWYER IS NOT REPRESENTING YOU TO HIS/HER BEST ABILITY, SEEK NEW COUNCIL! THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT SITUATIONS YOU WILL EVER GO THROUGH IN YOUR LIFE. YOUR KIDS DEPEND ON IT. DONT BE AFRAID TO “INTERVIEW” A FEW LAWYERS…. ITS WORTH IT.
I retained a new lawyer..and right off the bat, she was amazing. She was sending Trudy’s lawyer letters asking why certain things haven’t been done. Why Trudy hasn’t submitted her financial statements. After all, shes wanting child support, and for me to pay section 7 expenses… show me your financial statement!!
Immediately we learned that my previous lawyer had not been filing my “ANSWERS” … I signed them, and they were to be filed with the courts. Which never happened. No wonder Trudy’s lawyers were trying to file a non contested motion.
She was on the phone with Trudy’s lawyer within 5 minutes, and emailed her my answers that were filed…..Just to prove it was done. Trudy’s lawyer thanked us, but Trudy wasn’t willing to drop the non-contested motion unless I agreed to sign a child support agreement.Just to have in place until our final agreement was done. Remember– until now there has been no legal agreement requiring me to pay child support. I never pay child support when it was supposed to be 50/50, but I have been paying since being in the same city as her which was encouraged by my then Junior Lawyer.
I agreed. Now that the non-contested motion was dropped, and we were able to file our answer, the fight for custody could begin.
I finally have a lawyer that is willing to go to battle for me, shes getting on top of the mistakes my Junior lawyer made and hopefully i’m going to see progress.
Things cant get any worse……. or can they? Stay tuned.
I know this blog entry was a tad dryer than the rest, but I wanted to draw a picture about lawyers and how you can be treated if you let it happen. If you feel like this, even the slightest bit, please get out of your situation.